Written by Domestic violence is a serious issue that affects millions of people worldwide. According to the World Health Organization (WHO), one in three women worldwide has experienced physical or sexual violence in their lifetime, often by an intimate partner. Domestic violence also affects men, children, and elderly people.
Domestic violence laws are in place in most countries around the world, yet… there is something else being said about the reality of family court. If you step back and look at the bigger picture. These laws “aim” to protect victims of domestic violence and to punish perpetrators of such acts. However, victims all over the world are testifying that maybe justice isn’t their reality.
In the United States, the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) was only first passed in 1994 and was reauthorized in 2013. The law provided funding for programs that help victims of domestic violence and sexual assault and strengthens penalties for perpetrators. VAWA also established the National Domestic Violence Hotline, which provides support and resources for victims of domestic violence. That said, have you read the book Child Hunters by Carine Hutsebaut? In it, she profiles people who harm children. One of their tactics is to infiltrate a once innocent and helpful organization and therefore corrupt it. However, it is apparent that the hotlines give no real resources other than what is also common knowledge to the authorities, the courts, and the abuser. I remember at the height of my domestic violence and court abuse I was in the closet crying and calling this very hotline for resources that weren’t shelters and food assistance programs. I wanted a posse or an angry mob to burn it all down with me.
In addition to VAWA, each state in the US has its own set of laws that address domestic violence. These laws typically define domestic violence, provide protective orders or restraining orders, and establish criminal penalties for those who commit domestic violence. Most states also provide services for victims of domestic violence, such as shelters and counseling. However, somewhat useful I have also seen these organizations cause more harm to the victim. For example, shelters have been reported as working with the cops, cps, and the courts to legally kidnap kids
In other parts of the world, domestic violence laws may differ in their approach. Although reports show that, in many countries, including the United States that the burden of proof may fall on the victim, and there may be no legal recourse for victims of domestic violence. Watch the documentary “Victim Suspect” and read “Prosecuted not Silenced” for more information on how severely flawed our system is.
Despite the laws in place, domestic violence remains a pervasive problem. Victims of domestic violence may be reluctant to report the abuse, either because they fear retaliation from their abuser or because they feel ashamed or embarrassed. Although the reality is that, victims may not even realize what they are walking into with family court, which may actually turn out to be a continuation of their abuse.
It is essential that society continues to work towards ending domestic violence. This includes supporting victims of domestic violence, raising awareness of the issue, and holding perpetrators accountable for their actions. Something our current system is not upholding for victims of domestic violence. If you or someone you know is a victim of domestic violence, please ask them to access our Member’s group to get help and support from others who have gone through similar experiences. Welcome to the community, built by moms for moms.
“ I remember at the height of my domestic violence and court abuse I was in the closet crying and calling this very hotline for resources that weren’t shelters and food assistance programs. I wanted a posse or an angry mob to burn it all down with me.” “ However, somewhat useful I have also seen these organizations cause more harm to the victim. For example, shelters have been reported as working with the cops, cps, and the courts to legally kidnap kids” “ Victims of domestic violence may be reluctant to report the abuse, either because they fear retaliation from their abuser” “ the burden of proof may fall on the victim, and there may be no legal recourse for victims of domestic violence. ” I have called every single day since November 28, 2022, the day I saw my ex who lives in Chicago on my camera the night I got home from being gone all day which he knew I’d be gone at my daughters custody case over an hour and a half away, and that the baby would be home with the babysitter. This would make the second attempt he would attempt to kidnap our son. When I mentioned it his response was “ Let’s just see what you said about me under oath”. I have the text message. I made my ex leave after he strangled me when I was 3/4 weeks pregnant on January 27, 2022. The psychological, emotional, verbal abuse continued to escalate from that day and to this day he’s done the unthinkable leaving me in fear every second of my life! Not a single shelter had an opening for myself and my son. I felt the exact same way that is described in quotation marks at the beginning. And, my county has taken away DV funding! It affected me which affected my son. I tried everything possible, I have a disability and even was able to get a legal advocate to try and help find safety but no luck. I am at a point where I desperately need help but there’s no way I can do anything without legal representation. My ex is a person who portrays himself as an independent investigative journalist who supports protective moms, but in reality he is a predator who seeks out victims and loves the attention and victim dates. It’s a popularity contest for him. He has traumatized our son to the point he’s nonverbal, and he’s threatening me, the abuse is worse than ever and the cohesive control is getting out of hand! I can’t take anymore of it and I can’t watch our son suffer because of his abuse and rage. I know if I attempt of my own it will be held against me, I’m in NC and my son was basically kidnapped while I had an emergency procedure by him and taken to Chicago. I submitted an emergency custody motion and order. After recently finding he’s sunder investigation by Chicago DCFS and also Chicago DCFS recently put a restraining order on him saying he’s a danger to the kids due to confidential information he kept releasing in a story he was doing as he did in our case with our son except he exploited our sons confidential medical records all over social media. He’s dangerous. My address, medical information, and a lot more was also included. He’s intentionally violated the court order, fled from Chicago to Miami without telling me or letting me speak or see my son for 30 days. He found out I submitted an ex parte motion which the clerks put in our file so he fled to evade court. I know he’d going to retaliate. He’s lied about everything, medical records in order to get mandatory vaccinations for son, son was declared missing on Christmas Day, son has medical issues but he abruptly stopped all medication. The list is long. I’m going Monday to try to enforce the emergency custody order. But need protection too, I feel I’m at a loss because of where I’m located. And I don’t see anything regarding NC on here.