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Domestic violence is a serious and unfortunately common issue that affects many people in our society. It can take many forms, such as physical abuse, emotional abuse, financial abuse, sexual abuse, incest, coercive control, blackmailing, trafficking, slavery, and more. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, it’s important to know that there are resources available to help.
One of the first and most important resources to utilize is the forums section of this website, which is available 24/7, with a monthly membership (this is to identify our users and prevent trolling). Join a specific forum by region and or relevant issue. These chat groups are intended to provide free and confidential support and referrals to local resources such as (creating or joining Mommune spaces) shelters, counseling, and legal advocacy. We only want to collaborate with people that we know that we can trust. With that said, this is not legal advice. If you are suspected of abusing these forums you will no longer have to access them.
These forums offer victims of domestic violence, access to share their circumstances, get advice, relate to others who have gone through similar situations, and form Mommune-type communities, instead of sending vulnerable victims to shelters and lawyers like “sheep among the wolves”. We have found that many once helpful organizations like shelters may not be very safe. We recommend reading the book “Child Hunters” by Carine Hutsebaut, to understand better why organizations that once worked in favor of the people, ended up becoming inundated with predators.
Other available emergency resources may include your local domestic violence organizations. These organizations may provide a range of services, such as counseling, support groups, emergency food, and resources for low-income households. Often they have a 24-hour crisis hotline and may provide information about the resources available in your area. Some examples of these organizations include Safe Horizon, Women Against Abuse, and the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence.
Although often they will place you or tell you to go to shelters and that situation may make it easier for your abuser or the courts to gain access to you and your child for legal kidnapping. Which can often disrupt the collection of a testimonial and or physical evidence.
If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, it’s important to call 911 or your local emergency services. Law enforcement can provide protection and assistance. Report the abuse and if for any reason any officer or agency tries to take your child away from you, and without due process, and a complete trial with evidence that you are not a fit parent, or if they do not have a warrant issued, then you have the right to refuse them access to your child.
It’s also important to remember that domestic violence is never the victim’s fault and that there is no excuse for abuse. If you are experiencing domestic violence, know that you are not alone and that help is available. It’s important to reach out for support and to take steps to ensure your safety. Creating a safe exit is often best things you can do to succeed. before leaving your abuser.
Here is a list of things to consider:
- Collect evidence of abuse.
- Get a certified domestic violence therapist to work with CSA and other abuse reports and ensure that they will testify on behalf of your child and have the child testify in the utmost detail to this therapist.
- Save money, start a fundraiser, eliminate assets, get help from others, find a safe secure location, relocate, and keep it private. (We do not recommend going to shelters as they often make it look like, in court, that you are unable to care for your child on your own because you are homeless.)
- Make multiple copies of your evidence and files and store them in separate and secure locations. (I often used a security deposit box, and or storage unit.)
- Ask for court records, police reports, court videos, or transcripts, and keep them all safe.
- Organize all your files and evidence and write out a timeline of when the abuse began. keep multiple physical and digital copies.
- Contact a trusted divorce or custody coach, and get help reading and rewriting your own motions to save money. You can hire a lawyer just to show up in court. (often lawyers can overlook details and or won’t bring pivotal and pertinent information forward, thus you lose.)
Here is a list of recommended divorce coaches by state and name in alphabetical order.
(If you wish to be added to this list then please leave your contact information in the comments and or contact us at: contact@amothersfire.com)
COLORADO
Lawyers:
High Conflict Coach:
NEW YORK
Lawyers:
High Conflict Coach:
- momshinecollective.com (they may require a reference)
WORLDWIDE
Lawyers:
High Conflict Coach:
- www.protectivemothersrevolution.org access requires a $50 donation and for you to send them an introduction email. (The payment and email are to confirm identity.)